Friendship : Decoded !

Recently International Friendship Day (Observed on First Sunday of August) went by. It meant celebration of FRIENDSHIP! This made me wonder- what friendship actually is ?

Giving my second thought to the question and stressing over a couple of days, here i am with my second post.

FRIEND or FRIENDSHIP, these words aren’t new to anyone of us. Right? But does its meaning remain same for all of us ? I sincerely doubt !

The moment a child steps out of the house for the very first time entering school, he/she starts to socialize, and make friends. How simple life was when we were kids! Anyone we talked to instantly became our friend with no hidden hard feelings.When sitting together in the class or playing all together made the best buddies, a thread meant the symbol of friendship.I wish the things were same now.

As we grow up, friends get categorized: friends, acquaintances, classmates, hostel mates, college friends, coaching friends, friends of same group, close friends, best friends and the list is long! One or two of the lucky ones would get the honorable tag of being the best friends! Silly but true isn’t it? The amount of sharing depends on the category we fall in & the level of friendship shared with them.

Well, that perfectly marked the difference from what childhood friendship was sharing everything equally with everyone. No ifs and buts! But the scene changes as we mature. Words are chosen with respect to the listener not the speaker.

Then the next question comes to my mind that- how do i justify friendship in the present scenario?

Everyone says that best friend knows it all. I ask you, is it really true? Aren’t there still some things deep in your heart that even your best friend doesn’t have a clue about? Whatever be your answer, yes or no. It did make you think for a while. Didn’t it?

But why do we divide the categories? Sharing a bit here and a bit there because we are scared of putting all the eggs in the same basket?? Is it the insecurity of being judged or the presumptions that the person won’t just understand? Or there isn’t enough trust in the person/ friendship? Or the fear that the secret we hold so deep in our heart will not be a secret anymore?
Sometimes these questions really freaks me out and make me think more. You never know, even the best relationship in the world can give a hard time to your neurons. 

What is the reason, I wonder! Why can’t we treat every friend equal? I understand the fact that everything can’t be told to every single person whom we call our friend (with ever increasing friend list on social media) but what about inner circle of friends we have? Do we share everything with them? I am sure the answer will be NO!

Few of my friends gave an explanation saying– ‘ In today’s world, people don’t have time !’ Really? I bet, if i  get that busy someday, i would definitely not survive for more than a couple of days. No one in this world expects you to give a knock on their door everyday or chitchat on a daily basis. But doing it even once a week, would give them immense happiness and bring a smile on their face. And that didn’t include whatsapp or messaging, but according to the tech savvy genX, even that would work i guess. Will it?

So eventually, with so many friends around, we end up being alone with the company of those unspoken thoughts circling our mind constantly waiting to be heard.
So, is this friendship is all about?? May be!

I never thought of decoding a perfect definition of a friend or for that matter friendship. But to take a second thought of what friendship in particular means for us. Everyone will have their own version of friendship,and its very justified, but what are we doing to keep its spirit alive? Being in tough with your friends will obviously make you a more happier person, someone will always be there to hold your hand walk along with you. 

Whatever we might go through or whatever we might/might not hide, we still need friends and for them we will always be ready to do anything because although we don’t share ourselves wholly, we do share a part of us with each one of them differently!

So fellas, stay connected to your pals ! If possible ring them, message them and talk your heart out. Maybe the person would have been waiting to hear from you, so when you cross each other someday, a smile would fill in the gap instead of weird awkwardness.

Stay Happy and Stay Blessed ! 

Do share what you think about friendship? 🙂


12 Reasons Why Army Kids Are The Coolest, Most Awesome People Ever !

Anybody with an army background would agree that army kids really are a different league altogether. Whether you admit it or not, there’s always an air of awesomeness that surrounds them, wherever they go, whatever they do. Right from their confidence to their striking personalities, we tell you what makes them so cool.

1. They travel while they’re growing up.

They’ve seen places you haven’t even heard of. They’ve seen the world the way nobody else ever will!They’re travelers, not tourists.They’ve traveled so much, they can recognize places just by the way the air smells. This quality gives them a never ending hunch for adventure and activeness to explore new places & cultures.

2. Having changed more than 5 schools before completing their education, they’re smart, confident and outgoing.

The variety of colleagues they have all over the country is far more than the amount of rings you can wear on your all ten fingers. Moreover, having taught by a lot of teachers, where each of them imparts their own culture and teachings, they happen to rock the outside world. 

P.S.– And yeah ! With the experience of punishments they get from all places is enough to face a Goblin in an interview. 😛

3. And of course, making friends wherever they go is never a problem.

Yeah, even when it’s an alien.

4.They’re great conversationalists.

You can never get bored talking to them. They always have interesting stories to tell from the places they’ve traveled to.

P.S.– They will keep you engaged in their conversation until you enter their love life ! 😛

5.While you were playing gully cricket, they were probably trying their hands on horse riding, golf or polo!

This does not mean they haven’t experienced gully cricket, but the scope of learning a wide variety of sports is what you get in the army.

P.S.– And they still have their table manners and gentlemen etiquette very much in place.

6.They’re so well brought up they learn to live in any given condition.

They’ve endured the scorching sun and survived the harshest cold. If you need to learn survival skills, you know where to go! And mind you surviving at a temp below minus 20 degrees will just freeze your spine.

7. While most of you are busy looking this on the dance floor, they know how to woo the ladies in the room with their sophistication.

Its simply awesome because,they have style. They dress well, speak well and behave well. 

8. When they go grocery shopping to their canteens, they can go crazy buying whatever they want, however much they want without shelling out too much money! 

At last, they have the biggest discounts over thousand of products & that too is not a limited offer !!! 😛

P.S.– Not to forget, the cheap liquor! Cheers ! 🙂

9.Thanks to the reputed background they hail from, they’re much more aware about national issues than anyone else in their friend circle.

Give them a chance to enlighten you with their knowledge, mind you ! You will be amazed.

10.Tanks, rifles, guns – they get to see all the cool stuff!

11.They know patriotism like no one else. They whole heartedly prepare themselves for the fact that their fathers may never return, just for the sake of the nation’s security. They’re Indian at heart.

12.They’re good at almost everything they do. And history has it, army kids make great superstars! 

P.S.– Priyanka Chopra is my favorite, 😛 🙂

The things that are mentioned above are just few highlights from the life of an army brat. No doubt that they are the coolest and have awesomeness running through their veins, but on the other side there are people from non army background who have many qualities that makes them the Best in their lot.  Just that with some proper guidance and exposure you can nurture yourself as a perfect gentlemen !
Kudos to the Indian Army and their Brats !